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January 24, 2011


Oh Margy, what a beautifully-written post. I'm sorry that you're experiencing grief & loss, but the sentiments you express are just lovely. Your thoughtfulness & caring show in every word. Hang in there.

Margy- struggling with how to balance the wonder of childhood with realities of life is something I too think about often- however, in each realm there is opportunity to create a sense of belonging to something outside oneself -thanks for sharing-thinking of you and your loss.

Sending all my love and please know we're thinking about all of you!

Margy: I know only too well the feelings you are posting about. Only when we are confronted with a serious illness or death do we realize the importance of health. We certainly don't know this in our youth, unless we have experienced it first hand. And that is a shock! And illness is so hard to deal with. Having had a very serious illness when my children were verrry young, I opted always for the truth with them, age-appropriate truth. And as they have grown, they don't even remember that time period, I do continue to discuss it with them every once in awhile, to remind them that we went through that tough period and came out of it all right. I did that because I was shielded from death when my beloved grandfather died when I was 7. My parents left me with relatives and went to the funeral and I was only told afterwards. I was so angry when I found out and felt so left out! I also did that because I wanted them prepared if the illness led to something worse!

These are very tough and personal issues. Only you can figure out how to deal with it best for you and your family. I hope you find solace and pray for your loved ones.

Margy- This is a beautiful post. It's always comforting to know that children are being parented so well.

The world can be very magical. You're in our thoughts too.


Margy, Your post is written so beautiful, yet it is so sad. I want to reach out to you and do what ever I can to help. I'm hear.

Children as you know are a lot more resilient that we give them credit for. In life, we cannot stop the inevitable, but we can teach our children how to cope and live when turbulent times come. Largely our children will watch and learn from how we deal with tough and sometimes dreadful news. You are such a sweet person and you have a lovely family. My daughter adores your family. I'm hurt because you are hurting. I'll remember you in my prayers tonight. Sharon

Dear, Dear Margy,
What a testimony to your beautiful self. Starting with the photos which capture the feelings and questions you share here, through the beautifully expressed thoughts and quandries, this post is remarkably deep and reveals someone with a big heart and soul. Thank you so much for sharing your burden with us with such wisdom and grace. It helps lighten mine.

While my heart goes out to you, clearly your love and concern for your children bears celebrating as does the love for those you grieve.

Sometimes we simply can't "keep it light" and perhaps we shouldn't. Sometimes I wonder why people aren't sadder when hard things happen. It turns out that they were faking it all along and I figure they don't care. I have also seen folks pretend so long that one day they fall apart and don't know why, become depressed, etc. I believe your honesty is something to celebrate.

I have tremendous admiration for you!

Love, Mom

Thank you for being open in sharing so eloquently your struggles with grief. All sounds so familiar and true to what I have experienced. Sending light and peace your way.

Keep writing!

Thank you for sharing your thoughts with us. "A grief shared by many is only half a grief. A joy shared is twice a joy" An old, but wise proverb. Joy and grief are what make us alive. Allowing the children to see you experience both teaches them to be human. Thank you for the reminder that are children experience every day- joy is in the moment. You and you family are in my heart.

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